I see you caught the attention of the wingers because one has appeared on your commentary board. We cannot move forward while leaving Republicans behind. In the march for equality, we all have a role to play! I cannot see how equality can be achieved while this community harbors such divisions. They knew the way forward required that we communicate what we wanted, needed and why.īecause of Ken and Ben (twin brothers, maybe?) the struggle continues.
In the early days of the struggle for our equality, activists knew that silence equals death. This gay man thought that, as a community, we were better than that. By so doing, it's also obvious that you prefer cheap smears and name calling to reasoned debate. I don't think it is any stretch when I observe that you hate republicans and you have systematically avoided the central question to my rebuttle. Well Ben and Ken (maybe you're the same person?), I think you have made my point nicely. Your flags are very red flags - crimson:) This list could also apply to men and women dating. Mona Sabalones Gonzalez from Philippines on January 18, 2014: Yeah this list is absolute garbage I honestly don't even know where to begin. the rest are just over the top generalizations. Perhaps that's the ultimate irony of not only my dating experiences but this article.ġ, 2, 6, a bit of 7 and 9 make some sense. Supposedly that's what everyone searching for love is looking for- a selfless loving guy. I pass with flying colors all the time, until they find out I care for someone else's happiness more than my own's. I don't say this to insult you (though in fairness you did insult me), I say this to inform you that not all men who love men are the same, and that's the real tragedy of gay culture in general and this article (which ironically I find you as a writer to be contradictory in fault): the "mental shopping list" and "car loan application" you rail against. I do realize there's a "disclaimer," as I said, but given your emphasis on not only that but a few other things I found honestly to be ridiculous.
I'm just disappointed that an otherwise perfect guy (I can name three of my friends who are in the same position as me, all AMAZING, unbelievably hunky guys who are all several states away from me) like the friends I just talked about parenthetically will never be given a chance other than being a toy for someone else's sexual desire. But if I am single for the rest of my life, that's my duty as a parent and my love for him is greater than my own desires. I did with one, I didn't with the other two. Though, for the record, each of the three men I've had serious relationships all called me within a year to ask if we can get back together.
I am full aware that I will die single because of this fact about myself. What's sad is that you're bolstering that prejudice by telling them the same thing. What's more disappointing is that many good men out there in the world will be told the same thing due to their life circumstances. What's disappointing is that this article is telling me the same thing. I am well aware that me sharing a house with my ex as well as having a son with a disability makes me "undatable" to most gay men: trust me, they've told me.
Because it is 2014, a LOT of people AREN'T in the financial position to up and leave who they've been sharing a house with for years, children or not. If I were to move out, I am in the financial position where I'd be able to afford it. They are great together! And he is going to make a fantastic step-dad!īut beyond that fact, this is 2014. As a matter of fact, she got engaged this past week, and everyone involved gets along great, and I'm proud to say I introduced them to each other. I am living with my ex and truly not in a relationship with her.
And specifically with autism, my son's "severe" kind (though I'm loathe to use the term "severe), when I got divorced my ex wife and I had long discussions about living arrangements as my son would have his entire sense of himself in the world ruined if one of us weren't living here. And that brings me to my second point: There are some of us out here with children with disabilities.